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How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Others’ Emotions as an Empath


One of the greatest challenges for empathic and highly-sensitive people as they work through their own journey of healing and transformation, is the struggle with feeling responsible for the emotions and pain of others. When we can deeply feel how our actions or words affect other people, and we experience in our own bodies how we might trigger certain reactions in others, this can lead to living our lives constantly walking on eggshells to prevent others from becoming emotionally triggered.

This dynamic is completely understandable given that we can very viscerally perceive how our actions or our presence affects others. Additionally, the fact that we can feel others’ painful emotions within us as if they are our own can cause us to double down on any behaviors that cause us to avoid triggering others. We may even feel that we are harming ourselves by triggering others if we constantly feel the lower emotions of those around us.

While this is a very common pattern with empaths, it is not really in our highest good to go through life walking on eggshells for others. If we step back for a minute, and think about how our lives would be different if we didn’t make decisions or take actions based on how our words or choices might cause others to react emotionally, we might see our lives looking very differently than they do now. When we go through life trying to avoid triggering emotions in those around us rather than making decisions that are in our best interest, we are living our lives through fear and disempowerment.

Ultimately, we are not responsible for the emotions or reactions of others, even though it may not feel like this is the case. When anyone becomes emotionally triggered through an experience or interaction with another person, it is simply because they have a wound or trauma that needs healing that is being touched upon energetically. Those emotions that they are feeling are actually an opportunity to look at the trigger and seek healing for past traumas. It is each person’s own responsibility to seek this healing, and it is each person’s choice whether they seek the healing that they need or react through their triggers in a harmful or “negative” way. Just because we feel this process play out in a person that is in our presence does not mean we are responsible for that process.

False Assumptions

If we have any sort of trauma related to triggering another person and then having to feel their emotional reaction to that triggering, it is likely that we have developed behaviors (both physical and energetic) that aim to prevent this type of trauma from reoccurring. We may become even more sensitive to the negative or lower emotions in those around us than we would normally be, or even develop habits of absorbing the lower emotions of others specifically to prevent those in our presence from acting out of lower emotions and causing us harm. This is especially true if we have had an abusive or toxic dynamic with caregivers, family members, or others we spent a lot of time with at an early age.

While these behaviors are understandable, they are not helpful for our growth and can often be misguided. We may begin to feel as if ANY lower emotions that those around us are feeling are our fault or are caused by us, and then take steps to “correct” the imbalance energetically. This can lead to more foreign energies entering our field, and ultimately more trauma for us.

In reality, we may not have anything to do with the emotions that others are feeling at all. We have no idea what they experienced in their day before we saw them. We have no idea what problems they are working through in their mind that may be bringing up certain feelings. At the end of the day, it’s really none of our business why people are feeling the way they feel.

Others can blame us for how they feel and we can blame ourselves for how others feel, but no matter who is placing the blame on us, the fact remains that we are still not responsible for the emotions of others.

Empowering ourselves as empaths means that we can feel compassion for the wounds and traumas of others while still taking actions in our own lives that are in our highest good or are uplifting for us, regardless of how others might react to our actions or decisions.

Seeing Ourselves as Healers

It can be helpful to change our relationship with emotions and to recognize that they are truly a gift. Emotions point us in the direction of our wounds so that we may heal them, so if we bring up lower emotions in others for any reason at all (intentionally or not), it is helpful to look at this as us creating an opportunity for others to heal their trauma rather than us causing harm to others. Emotions are not harmful in and of themselves, it is how people react to their emotions and the choices that they make through those emotions that can be harmful. Either way, we are not responsible for that choice that another person makes.

If you struggle with feeling responsible for others emotions in your own life, I’ve put together a healing that is meant to help you shift this dynamic for yourself. No prior energy healing experience is needed.

Know that with any healing of this nature, you may experience temporary energetic clearing symptoms. These can include tingling sensations, heat, cold, yawning, twitching, dizziness, emotional release, and others. It is important to drink a lot of water after healing, take a salt bath if possible, eat something if you feel ungrounded, and generally take care of yourself and your body.

Here is the healing process for clearing trauma, emotions, and beliefs that may cause you to feel responsible for the emotions of others. You may download the instructions for free using the link below, or use the purchase button to download a guided healing MP3.

Please note that energy healing can be very powerful, however it is not to be used in exchange for medical care and this healing is not to be taken as medical advice. If you have any symptoms or conditions that require medical treatment, please see a physician or mental health professional. If you choose to use this healing, it is at your own risk. For additional terms, please see the terms of service page on this website.

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